Bride sparks fury after asking if she can ban a kid with ADHD from her wedding
A bride-to-be has caused quite a stir online after asking other parents whether it was acceptable to not invite a child to her wedding on the grounds she has ADHD and behavioural issues
A bride-to-be has sparked fury online after questioning whether it was acceptable to ban a child with ADHD from her wedding.
The anonymous bride took to Mumsnet to vent about her cousin’s new boyfriend’s daughter, who she has not met, but has heard she has behavioural issues.
Although the wedding kid-friendly wedding isn’t due to take place until April next year, the bride is already spotting over whether she can get away with not inviting the young girl.
She argues that while the children are very welcome at the wedding, she’s never met this girl, and doesn’t have an existing relationship with her in the way she does the other kids.
“My cousin has a relatively new boyfriend who I haven’t met and he has a daughter around eight or nine who I also haven’t met,” she explained on the forum, as per the Sun.
“Apparently the girl has ADHD and is not very well behaved. I’m also not that close to my cousin as I only ever see her at family gatherings, we have no relationship outside of that, and it’s about once a year!”
The bride went on to say her cousin had asked for a plus one, which the couple agreed to, but now she’s asking to bring both her boyfriend and her boyfriend’s daughter, despite the fact “she could easily stay at home with her mum.”
“She just wants to come for the holiday as I live quite far away and it will be a family holiday for her because they’re renting an Airbnb with a pool etc,” she continued.
“I feel quite bad saying no but feel like I don’t want a kid who a) I don’t know and b) may be badly behaved??
“I’m not anti-ADHD at all, in fact about six of the kids coming have ADHD/ autism/ special needs, but the point is we know them and have a relationship with them.”
The bride then turned to Mumsnet to question whether others believed she would be being unreasonable if she told her cousin they couldn’t bring the young girl.
“To start with, the way you speak about this child is horrible. Secondly, it’s fairly common for a bride and groom not to have met everyone at their wedding, as partners of work colleges or friends will come who’ve you’ve never met,” one person fumed.
“If you didn’t want an issue with ‘not knowing’ everyone then you shouldn’t have invited your cousin with a plus one, who you say, you aren’t close to.”
Meanwhile, another added: “Your wedding, your choice. But you’ve made some big assumptions (she can easily stay with mum), and to be honest you sound a bit mean.
“If you’re going on the basis you don’t know her, and you’ve also said you’re not close to your cousin then don’t invite either of them.”
“You’re pretty much saying everyone is welcome apart from this one child. It’s your wedding and you can do what you like but you’re being an a**hole to have an issue with this particular child,” a third wrote. “Any child can misbehave, it’s up to her dad to take her away if she disrupts anything.”